How Long Should I Breastfeed For?

One of the most frequent questions I hear in antenatal classes is, “How long should I breastfeed?” My answer is always heartfelt: “For as long as both you and your baby want to be in this relationship.”

Breastfeeding isn’t a gift or a sacrifice—it’s a relationship. When we look at it this way, it becomes clear that, like any healthy relationship, it should bring joy and benefits to both sides, continuing as long as both of you are comfortable and happy.

Any breastfeeding you choose to do has real value, so if it’s something you want to try, it’s worth beginning, even if you later decide it’s not for you. In nature, mammals generally nurse until their young are ready to stop on their own, which for humans usually happens naturally between ages 3 and 5. However, in modern society, weaning is often a decision made by mothers, and it’s completely valid to end this relationship whenever feels right for you. As professionals, family, or friends, it’s not our place to judge when this choice is made—only you can determine the timing that fits best.

Why You May be Considering Weaning

If you’re considering weaning, try reflecting on why. If it’s coming from a place of positivity—like, “I’ve loved this, but I feel ready for a new phase”—mums often look back on that decision with contentment. However, if it’s coming from difficulty or worry, like soreness or stress, I often find that mums may continue to feel conflicted. In these cases, I’d encourage you to seek supportive guidance. Just as in any meaningful relationship, sometimes support can help you either rekindle the bond or feel more certain about letting it go.

If weaning is your choice, it’s important to do so in a way that’s gentle for both you and your baby. For information on safely managing weaning at different stages, please click here.